Dominance 101: Starting Your Journey as a Dom

An intensive 3-hour course covering the fundamentals for practicing BDSM as a Dom.

With over a decade of experience in BDSM and some years practicing the art of Shibari, I bring a unique blend of practical knowledge and deep personal insight into the dynamics of kink. Throughout my journey, I’ve studied from a range of teachers, gaining perspectives that have enriched my understanding of BDSM as more than just a physical practice—it's a path to healing and personal growth. I’ve integrated the principles of sacred sexuality with conscious kink, offering a balanced and mindful approach to BDSM, always prioritizing safety, presence, and clear boundaries.

While depth and intensity are central to the work, I also infuse each experience with playfulness and humor, using an unjudgemental approach with a sense of approval as we connect with our radical authentic selves.

What will we learn?

How will we learn?

This intensive 3-hour course is divided into three modules. It combines theoretical education with practical application, supported by visual presentations and a dedicated workbook.

You'll engage in hands-on practice using various types of impact gear, including floggers, whips, paddles, and canes. Additionally, we will explore rope work, focusing on some basic Shibari ties.

Here are some topics we will dive into:

Understanding the nature of power dynamics

BDSM revolves around power dynamics and the various ways to explore and engage with them.

The roles of the Dom and the Sub

Clarifying the roles and responsibilities each person holds in a BDSM dynamic.
Common Doms and Subs types

Hands on practices

Practicing with different impact accessories like floggers, whips, paddles, and more.
Basic Shibari ties.

Shibari basics

We will learn rope handling, Safety, some basic ties, and resource recommendations for where to dive deeper.

Maintaining mental and physical safety

How to use different tools
Where (NOT!) to hit
How to use ropes, and places we avoid tying
How to build clear agreements
Safewords
Hygiene protocol

and more...

Different types of play

In BDSM, a psychological game refers to an interaction or activity that primarily engages the mental and emotional aspects of the participants. There are many different genres for psychological games, here are some we will go through: Age play, Consensual Non-Consensual Play, Humiliation play, Pet play, Objectification Play, and more...

We will also learn the principles of Punishment and reward and understand the essence of Impact and Sensation play weaved together.

How to build agreements

How to use a consent form (will be provided to you).
RBDSM conversation.

Kinks

Understanding different types of Kinks and finding out what makes us tick.

Grounding and Aftercare

Aftercare will ensure emotional and physical recovery while grounding will allow us to regroup after intense experiences.

Scene planning

In BDSM, a "scene" refers to a specific period of time where participants engage in consensual kinky activities. Planning a scene with care and attention to detail can help us have a smooth and powerful experience.

You will also receive:

A printed workbook with the entire course curriculum
An option to purchase basic BDSM gear at reduced prices

PDF files:

"Submissive's Preference & Consent Form"
"118 Phrases to Use with Your Submissive"
"Tonight I Want"